Mieliepap and all!
At the age of 47 I really know that life is one of the most precious commodities that anyone could have. I am so glad that I have the change to be part of human kind.
We live in a society where we have to put our lives in the hands of other people. At first we don’t have a choice. Most of us are being cared for in our mother’s womb for nine months plus. If this mother decides that she does not want you there is nothing you can do about it.
Is it because those mothers doesn’t think about the fact that their own lives are precious and God given? People don’t value the union between man and woman anymore, for that reason a lot of women get pregnant without committing to a man, preferably a husband. What are the reasons that somebody can just decide who is going to live and who is not going to get a change?
I’ve been given a few reasons; cant’ afford to raise a child right now, a child will be an obstacle at this stage of my career, I’m HIV positive, the father left me when he found out that I’m pregnant, we did not plan to have a child at this stage, I don’t know who the father is, don’t want my parents to find out, my boyfriend does not want a child, etc.
Then I’ve been given some real reasons; the fetus is deformed, I’ve been raped, it is life threatening for the mother.
Well, whatever the reason, a choice is made. When I look at the toddlers running around in supermarkets or parks, yes, even a man can think that a baby or toddler is cute, I’m just so grateful to God that their parents did not think that there was a choice or that those who had to make a choice chose life.
Am I judgemental? No, not at all. I can never be in somebody else’s shoes. Am I trying to change other peoples’ perceptions? Let me be honest and say YES!
The reason why I say that I’m not judgmental is because I’ve made mistakes in my life and I’ll probably make mistakes in the future. I just thank God that He, in His grace has paid a Price for my mistakes.
I’ve been born and raised in a not to small town, Upington, Northern Cape, South Africa. I mother has fled from an abusive husband from Rhodesia, now Zimbabwe, while she was pregnant with me. I grew up not knowing a father figure. My mother raised me, my older brothers(3) and a sister without the help of a man or the government. When my sister died in a car accident she took in two children as well. One of my cousins did not want her baby girl and my mother stepped in to raise that girl as my younger sister.
I remember a time when she earned a mere R25 (today it is more or less $2 and 50c aE” American) a month. There were times when we had to eat bread with sugared water after school, sometimes mieliepap (porridge made with maize meal). There were times that I thought that she must be a magician, because we never went hungry, we had clothes (maybe not brand names) and we attended school.
Was she an amazing woman, was she a hero? Not according to her. I would call her the greatest mom of all. She saw herself as a normal mother who would give her best in love and that would never give up on her children. We, as children, were not her responsibility, we were her children.
Sorry, I’ve got carried away. Where was I?
Yes, I was trying to change somebody’s mind. I’ve met somebody who was born disabled, as we would like to call it. He is very successful and does not see himself as disabled. He says that God allowed him to be challenged more than other people and that he is so grateful to God. Because of his condition he has a lot of willpower and drive.
Many people living with HIV have beautiful children without the disease. If you are HIV positive and pregnant, speak to your doctor.
I know it is not that easy to try and convince somebody who’s life is threatened by pregnancy or who has been raped to hold on to that life growing inside of you. I just hope that there will be testimonies of people who held on to their babies under these circumstances. Please, if you read this hub and you are one of them, place your testimony in the comments field.
God thinks very highly of us. While busy creating, He had us in mind the whole time; placing the sun in exactly the right place so that we could live, seeing that we will have air to breath by placing plants on the earth, allowing rain, plants and animals to feed us, leaving us in charge of His work, giving us a will to make decisions and best of all, blow His Spirit into us.
Tell me, could any big bang really do this, without Somebody behind it? We are trying to convince others but we cannot even convince ourselves that we’re here because of a decision by nature. I would believe you if you told me that there was a big bang because God called everything to order when He commanded: “Let there be. . . . ”
Mothers’ to be, you are not judged, I’m just trying to tell you to consider carefully. God bless you.
Now I’m going to judge. Governments, you were placed there to look after us. We placed you there but the majority of people don’t think that you’ve got our interest at heart. I sometimes think that the governing parties don’t have their own interest at heart.
Why do I say you don’t have our interest at heart?
You have killed so many babies that cant fight for themselves. The blood of those babies is on your hands for legalizing abortions at will. You actually say, if you want to, you can kill and nobody will touch you. If you read this and you say, but I’ve got to vote whatever my party propose, you are still guilty. There are parties out there with moral values intact, especially in South Africa. I’m not promoting any party, I’m promoting God. Can you sleep at night.
What about the countless women who had abortions and now regret it.
The South African government has gone so far as to allow 12 year olds to abort without parental consent, yet they cant buy a packet of cigarettes at a shop legally. Who is going to council those poor traumatized children if their parents do not know that they had abortions.
How many future leaders with integrity did you kill? Do you even care? You’re counting on getting those children’s votes sometime in their future because you’ve given them what they want? Do you really think that they wanted to abortions? Maybe they just did not know how to speak to their parents about this. Maybe they just needed an adult to reach out to them.
People, please, next time you need to go to a voting station, know what the party you want to vote for embraces morally. Are we not just as guilty? Why did we and you in other countries, not stop the governments dead in their tracts by not voting for them. Have we forsaken God and our morals? Have we forsaken our children and fellow citizens?
Shockingly as it is, there are actually still parents out there that, when children do speak to them, would encourage or force those children to have abortions. Shame on you. You do not deserve to be called parents. When your status is more important than your child, please go and see somebody to help you work on your self-esteem.
God has a plan for your unborn child. He is going to take care of you and the child. I am blessed because I had a mother who cared and a father who did not. I appreciate life. Mieliepap helped me to survive and I still eat it. It is by no means a poor man’s food but it is one of the cheaper foods. South Africans, keep on eating you pap.
I started this article because I wanted to talk about how precious life is from the womb to the grave but I’ve been too emotional. I might continue next time. Enjoy life and God bless.